Breaking up
I was talking to a fren who has recently broken up his girlfriend. Well, apparently, the 2 of them are still going out on a regular basis. So, I enquired about the state of things between them and he stated that the 2 of them are good friends now but there’s nothing more ot it than that.
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Of course, being a "brother" with this guy friend of mine, I know that he still has feelings for the gal and its really not the ‘nothing more than that’ as he has indicated, well, unless he’s speaking for his ex, that is something which I wouldn’t know. Anyway, I decided to probe a bit further.
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Me: So, you guys still talk to each other and goes out every now and then, but who’s calling who and who’s asking who out?
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Fren: Well, usually I will be the one who would call her.
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Me: Does she call you or ask you out?
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Fren: Hmm…usually no.
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Me: Don’t you feel tired? or weird, or sian, since it would appear that you are the only one giving all the effort unilaterally.
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Fren: Aiya, I just go out lor, didn’t think so much into it.
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Me: So what happens when she get attached next? Have you thought about it?
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Fren: Wait until then, then I’ll think about it.
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I wondered in silence, is this really wise? You have already broken up once and that has already cause u much heart ache. Now that you apparently still have feelings for her, do u really want to subject urself to one more round of pain? Or perhaps you could really get over her soon with such an arrangement?
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The answer is obviously no for me, but perhaps my fren, who is much more optimistic than me, could stomach all this. I didn’t probe any further, since there is obviously no answer to all this and everyone cope with things differently.
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However, lately, I can sense that the latent anger within me has once again started to build up. While I know what is to be done, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. Why?
